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Marriage Issues That Made The Top Four
| Each year, the experts are touting the latest lists of common marriage issues. Even though there ample lists that outline the 10 top issues, going over the four top ones should suffice. Each should be completely clear once you've had a moment to look at them. More importantly, you will likely agree that these issues deserve top billing on any list.nnAlmost every top four list begins by listing money as number one. More than any other problem, money seems to be the one people fight over the most. Often the issue is all about control but it may take the form of separate bank accounts. Basically, when one wants one, the other is against it for various reasons. What's interesting here is that experts suggest that you less likely to argue about finances if you have ready access to your own source of cash. Where this becomes a problem, at times, is when you decide to make large purchases without consulting your spouse. Sure, it is better to reach an agreement with your spouse for these big ticket purchases before you spend money. The other aspect of this that creates marriage issues involves the lack of communication. This lack of regard for financial partnership may even create debt troubles for the couple if they're not careful.nnIt isn't a surprise to most of you that sex is the second highest of the top four marriage issues. The top reason this was a problem was because of a lack of sex. Some reports mention that both men and women chimed in with this reason, but, of course, men were the higher number. The conclusion was that they both want more sex more often. The other source of sexual tension involved pornography use among men. A large number of men admitted to visiting strip clubs and porn sites on the web despite their wives' objections. Of course, the issue was exacerbated when unsuspecting women learned what their husbands were doing.nnThe third spot on the top four marriage issues was in-laws. It's sad that one or both of the spouses have family that do cause difficulties in the marriage. Bad behavior by in-laws has been known to completely destroy marriages. According to numbers, both women and men are guilty in this situation. The root of the issue involves one or both of the spouses' family members getting too involved in personal affairs. In other words, they're nosy. The spouse whose family is causing a problem should really ask them to distance themselves, but this doesn't really happen. The conflict is deepened as one spouse fails to protect the other.nnIt seems that adultery ranks in fourth place on that list of marriage issues. The numbers on adulterous affairs are staggering, which means that more people are cheating on their spouses. Of course, men rank first here as well. Women are actually closing this gap. The fourth issue is often a direct result of the sex issue mentioned earlier. Men will choose to cheat on their spouses because of lack of sex. Women decide to cheat because they're seeking the emotional support they aren't getting at home. Either member may start looking for the missing piece beyond their marriage and then are eventually discovered.nn |
About the Author
Writing about marriage issues has provided great insights into my own relationship. By taking the time to look at the top issues that confront couples, I made a list of the top four biggest problem areas that should be addressed.n
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