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Are You Looking For Happiness?
| No I am not going to try to sell you the next big self-help book or a $49.95 e-book that promises you guaranteed happiness, neither am I going to sell you a program that claims to hypnotize you into being happy all the time. I won't do this, because honestly you can't find happiness that way. Happiness has to start somewhere else and that somewhere is deep inside of you. It is a decision you actually have to make. Yes, I said it. Being "happy" is a choice which you must make in order to be able to find that holy grail of contentment. Sounds like a bunch of BS to you? I promise you it isn't and I am even going to show you why you need to make a decision to allow yourself to be happy before you can actually find happiness. Some people feel they don't deserve to be happy deep down inside. For whatever personal reason, be it their upbringing, their feeling of inferiority, or something a religion the follow had beaten into them, they fear or feel guilty when they experience a moment of happiness. When that happens, there is no way they can maintain even a moderate level of happiness since they push it away mentally. Some people are only "happy" when they are miserable and have drama in their life. Sounds really oxymoron and in a twisted sense it is. They are so comfortable with being unhappy and have learned that being unhappy gets them more attention from others that they don't even want to be happy, no matter what they claim. Some people can't recognize the feeling of happiness and think it is a constant feeling of "wanting to do cartwheels" or "euphoria". Neither is true. Others yet have a fear of the consequences if they allow themselves to be happy. Perhaps they have learned through a series of unfortunate events that once they feel happy about something or someone they end up loosing it. I deal with those things daily when talking to my clients as a Life Coach and they are most frequent examples of what keeps them from making the choice to be happy. Being happy does not depend on the ownership of material goods, other people, or circumstances. It is dependent on you and your ability to feel happy with yourself. Happiness is a state of being, something that goes beyond contentment and will not automatically leave you if you lose something or someone. If you have mastered the ability to be happy even in the worst circumstances you will notice that your life flows a lot smoother. Of course you will still feel anger, disappointment, pain and loss. That however is not going to impact you as deeply when you are able to remain happy within yourself. It is like your very own little bubble that keeps you sane and safe. Every single day holds something that gives you a reason to be happy being. No I didn't forget the rest of the sentence; I meant is just like that. You are happy just being! No matter what my day my bring I am happy being who I am, being alive, being in a place of inner contentment, being able to chose my actions which are in keeping with my spirit. Being happy means that you have control! Maybe not about everything that happens, but about how you adjust to it and how you perceive or handle whatever life throws at you. What about those that have lost everything or are terminally ill? How can they possibly be happy? Even then they can and even more importantly strive to find happiness within them-selves. As long as you are breathing, you still have a reason to be happy. Things can be regained; people are with us only for a season no matter how long that season lasts. We are firmly rooted in a circle of life which is never ending. Gain and loss, birth and death, sickness and health... Finding happiness within regardless of what goes on in our life is essential to emotional, spiritual and even physical well being. Even after you make the choice to learn how to let yourself be happy, it still takes a little bit of practice. Nobody manages to be 100% happy all the time. We all end up straying of this path from time to time, but the difference is that if you have chosen to be happy, you will recognize that something is missing and return to this state of inner sanctity quickly. Each time gets easier and you will soon start seeing a lot of very positive changes in your life. Remember that positive attracts positive, just as negative attracts negative. No matter how dark something is, even the light of a candle flame can pierce and break that darkness. It is up to you to keep that small flame called happiness alive and not allow anyone else or yourself to snuff it out. Balanced blessing to you all. Shalamar Your friendly neighborhood Witch |
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